Should I Move Back to My Hometown? I Keep Confusing It With Who I Was There.

I have a folder called "home" with eleven saved listings in it. I open it at 1am, usually after a bad day, and I look at houses I could afford there — actual houses, with yards, fo...
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Should I Take My Parents' Money for the Down Payment? The Strings Are Invisible.

My parents offered us money for a down payment in their kitchen, with the specific casualness of people who have rehearsed being casual.
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Should I Move Out of My Parents' House? The Rent Is Cheaper Than the Guilt.

My mother's kitchen, 7pm. She's making dinner and telling me about her day, and I'm standing there thinking about a one-bedroom I toured on Saturday that I haven't told her about. ...
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Should I Tell My Parents My Plan Isn't Their Plan? I've Been Quiet for Six Months.

My mom calls every Sunday. Same time, same chair in her kitchen, and lately the same question, delivered like she's just making conversation: "So — found a place yet?"
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What Happens After You Get a Dog? I Had a List of Fears. Only One Was Right.

I had a list of fears before I got a dog. I wrote them down, because I'm the kind of person who manages anxiety by making lists. The couch. The new carpet. The 6am walks in weather...
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Should I Adopt a Second Pet? I'm Scared I'll Love One Less.

My cat is my whole world. She's four years old, gray, opinionated, and she sleeps on my chest like she owns the place — because she does. I adopted her when I was in a bad place, a...
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Should I Take a Break From Dating? I Swiped 300 Times Last Week.

I swiped three hundred times last week. I know because the app told me, in that cheerful way apps tell you things they think you'll enjoy. 300. And when I try to remember a single ...
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Should I Go Back to School? I'm 30 and Terrified.

The brochure has been in my drawer for two years. I could describe it from memory — the cover photo of people looking fulfilled, the course list, the application deadline in small ...
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I Keep Leaving the Shelter Empty-Handed. The Reading Asked What I Was Really Afraid of Taking Home.

I've been to the shelter four times this year. Four. I know the route by heart now. I park in the same spot. I always tell myself this time I'm just looking, just supporting the ca...
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I Was Convinced a New Apartment Would Fix My Restlessness. The Reading Asked What I Thought I Could Outrun by Changing My Address.

I'd been browsing apartment listings the way some people scroll — mindlessly, at 1am, my thumb doing the work while my brain was somewhere else. The place I'm in now is fine. It's ...
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