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When the numbers say one thing and your gut says another. Financial decisions are rarely just about money.
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All Articles

Should I Tell My Boss I'm Looking for Another Job? He Asked If Everything Was Good.

· career
He asked me in the hallway, in the way people ask when they've already noticed something: "Hey — everything good?"
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Should I Say Yes to Being a Reference I Can't Honestly Recommend?

· career
An old colleague asked me last week, in a message that took him three paragraphs to get to the point: would I be a reference for a job he's applying for?
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Should I Lower My Price for the Client Who Says They Love My Work?

· money
The client has been with me three years. They say the work is "exactly what we needed" every single time. They also pay late roughly half the time, ask for small extras as favors, ...
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Should I Give My Parents Money They Haven't Asked For?

· money
My parents are fine. Not wealthy — fine. My father still works because he wants to. The house is paid off. They split a meal at restaurants and think nothing of it, because that's ...
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Should I Give My Partner an Ultimatum? We've Had the Same Conversation for Eighteen Months.

· relationship
Four years together. One conversation that keeps happening and never lands.
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Should I Tell My Partner I Earn More Than They Do? It's Never Come Up.

· relationship
Three years together. We split rent evenly because that felt fair when we moved in, and we've never revisited it. We split dinners. We split trips. It works, and it's a small point...
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Should I Forgive Someone Who Never Apologized? It's Been Four Years.

· life
I won't summarize what he did, mostly because I've noticed that whenever I start, I begin performing. The short version is that we were going to do something together — something s...
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Should I Stop Telling My Mother Everything? I Tell Her Before I've Lived It.

· life
I call my mother every day. Not because she requires it — she has never once made me feel obligated, which is somehow worse, because it means the daily call is entirely my idea and...
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Should I Let My Friend Move In With Me? I Said Yes in Four Seconds.

· relationship
He asked me in a text that started with "so this is awkward." His lease had ended badly, the sublet he'd lined up fell through, and he needed somewhere for a few months. I read it ...
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Should I Move In With My Partner's Parents to Save Money? The Math Says Yes.

· relationship
Our lease ends in four months, the rent went up again, and my partner's parents have a lower floor with its own entrance that they've offered us twice.
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