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When the numbers say one thing and your gut says another. Financial decisions are rarely just about money.
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The conversations you keep avoiding, the feelings you can't name, the boundaries you need to draw. Stories about the hardest interpersonal decisions.
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All Articles

Should I Tell My Friend What I Really Think of Their New Partner? She Asked Me Directly.

· relationship
Two weeks ago my friend asked me, in a car, in the specific tone people use when they've been waiting for the right moment: "You've been quiet about him. What do you actually think...
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Should I Get a Roommate to Afford the Place I Want? The Math Takes Four Minutes.

· money
The rent went up 12% this year, as usual. I can cover it — by taking my grocery budget somewhere I don't like looking at, and by knowing that one bad month would put me on a credit...
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Should I Buy the Business I've Been Managing? He Offered It to Me First.

· money
I've run this place for six years. Not owned it — managed it. There's a difference and I've felt every inch of it: I make the schedule and not the budget, I fix the problems and no...
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Should I Change My Mind About the Plan I've Told Everyone I'm Sticking To?

· life
Eighteen months ago I announced a plan. Not mentioned — announced. A dinner with the two friends who matter, a group chat, a call with my parents, and then, because it was the most...
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Should I Move Away From My Family for the Relationship? It's Two Thousand Miles.

· life
My partner got in. The thing they've been working toward for four years — a place in a program, in a city two thousand miles away, for two years minimum. When the email came they r...
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Should I Take the Promotion That Means Managing My Friends?

· career
I've been on this team for four years. Two weeks ago my manager offered me the lead role — it opened when the person above us left, and she said it's mine if I want it. Five people...
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Should I Get a Prenup? My Fiancé Thinks It Means I Expect Us to Fail.

· money
I brought it up over dinner, in the tone people use for logistics. "I think we should talk about a prenup before the wedding stuff gets busy."
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Should I Cosign a Loan for Someone I Love? I Said Yes Before I Thought About Month Four.

· money
My brother asked me in a parking lot. That's not a detail I'm inventing for effect — he'd driven to my place, we walked out to his car, and he stood there with his keys in his hand...
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Should I Stay Two More Years for the Pension? I've Been Saying "Two More Years" for Six Years.

· career
I can tell you the vesting date to the month. I know what percentage is mine at year seven versus year nine. I have a spreadsheet with the number in it, and I check that spreadshee...
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Should I Admit a Mistake Nobody Noticed? The Fix Is Done. The Secret Isn't.

· career
Three weeks ago I shipped something with an error in it.
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