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When the numbers say one thing and your gut says another. Financial decisions are rarely just about money.
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Should I Move Back to My Hometown? I Keep Confusing It With Who I Was There.

· life
I have a folder called "home" with eleven saved listings in it. I open it at 1am, usually after a bad day, and I look at houses I could afford there — actual houses, with yards, fo...
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Should I Take My Parents' Money for the Down Payment? The Strings Are Invisible.

· life
My parents offered us money for a down payment in their kitchen, with the specific casualness of people who have rehearsed being casual.
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Should I Tell My Friend I Can't Afford the Trip? I've Said "Maybe" Eleven Times.

· relationship
There are six of us. We've been friends for twelve years, since a shared apartment and no money and a lot of bad decisions that are funny now. Somewhere along the way we all got jo...
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Should I Spend Every Holiday With My Partner's Family? I've Been Keeping Score for Three Years.

· relationship
I've spent the last three Christmases at my partner's family's house. I want to be accurate about this: I like them. Her mother is funny in a dry way that took me a year to catch. ...
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Should I Get Engaged? I've Been Carrying the Ring for Three Months.

· relationship
The ring is in my sock drawer. Not loose — in the box, wrapped inside a pair of socks I never wear, because I'm not an idiot. But it might as well be loose. I know exactly which so...
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Should I Go Long Distance? We Have a Year Apart, and I'm Afraid of What I'll Find Out.

· relationship
My partner got the news on a Tuesday. A year abroad — a posting in her field, the kind of thing you can't turn down and shouldn't. When she told me, I said all the right things. "T...
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Should I Tell My Friend Their Partner Is Cheating? I Found Out Last Week.

· relationship
I found out on a Tuesday. I wasn't even supposed to be at that restaurant — my usual lunch spot was full, so I walked two blocks down, and there they were. Mara's boyfriend and a w...
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Should I Tell My Partner About the Debt I've Been Hiding? It's Been Two Years.

· money
The secret has a schedule. Every month, on the same day, I move money from my checking account into a credit card payment I've never told my partner about. It's been two years. The...
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Should I Move Out of My Parents' House? The Rent Is Cheaper Than the Guilt.

· life
My mother's kitchen, 7pm. She's making dinner and telling me about her day, and I'm standing there thinking about a one-bedroom I toured on Saturday that I haven't told her about. ...
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Should I Take a Pay Cut for a Job I'd Love? The Numbers Say No. Something Else Says Yes.

· career
The spreadsheet says no. I've modeled it six ways — I've given the pay cut a haircut, I've given my savings a cushion, I've added a line for the lost bonus and another for the reti...
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